We all know what burnout feels like… exhaustion, dread, like you want to put your head down on the desk and close those peepers.

You may even know what to do to NOT burnout: get sleep, eat healthy, exercise, and don’t overcommit. Try to do things that bring joy. Practice gratitude.

But the one mistake leaders make?

They try to go it ALONE. 

*Guilty shifty eyes*

The pull-yourself-up-by-your-bootstraps mentality has somehow translated into a shame and fear-based leadership style that’s all too prevalent. 

You may catch yourself thinking...

I’m the only one who can handle this. And this. And this.

Why aren’t I stronger/faster/better?

If anyone finds out I have too much on my plate, they won’t respect me.

If I ask for help, people will think I'm weak.

I can’t let anyone know I’m completely overwhelmed. 

**And that last one is the big mistake. **

Humans are biologically wired for human connection. We are a social species. Connections quite literally sustain us. Those who live longer are determined not by what they ate or how much they exercised, (sorry LA Fitness) but by the richness of their social lives. 

Yet, as school leaders, you’re often the only one in your position at our school. You may not have peers to problem solve or brainstorm with. Even if you love your teammates, they may not get exactly what it’s like to be in your role. It also means you may not have enough emotional support on the overwhelming days. You may even start thinking, “Ugh, I'm the only one dealing with _____ (this rowdy staff member, a difficult student behavior, insane amount of emails).”

And you’re dead wrong. 

People in your same role all over the country deal with remarkably similar challenges. 

I know because I hear about them :) 

I encourage you to start building your network of peers now to beat burnout before it takes root. Send an email, setup a virtual coffee chat, or ask someone at a PD for their number. Give support first, then ask for what you need. 

You can do this! 

And remember, building bridges and asking for support makes you a STRONGER leader, not a weak one. 

**If you’re a Principal, Assistant Principal, Director of Operations, or Special Populations Director/Dean, you’re in luck! I’m starting monthly virtual Mastermind groups for people in these roles nationally, and enrollment opens on June 3, 2024. Learn more here!